Hello everyone and welcome to The Fetish Study.  In the next several posts, I will be examining different sexual fetishes that are considered “strange” or “non-normative.”  These posts will not contain pornography or nudity, not out of any dislike for nudity but to keep the posts in a scientific frame.  So let’s start with the fetish of Sado Masochism.

Sado Masochism, or S&M for short, is the act of deriving sexual pleasure from inflicting (Sadism) or receiving (masochism) pain, discomfort, or humiliation.  The giving and receiving of pain, discomfort, or humiliation varies from person to person.  Some of the examples that I have heard of are as simple as engaging in forceful sexual actions. Some individuals enjoy tying up, or being tied up so that the masochist is unable to move.  The most extreme examples include being tied up nude in public or the use of needles and knives.

The fetish is found in all sexual orientations

Individuals who engage in S&M say that they are aroused by the idea of having or not having control over the sexual encounter.  The members of the community enjoy the power play, which they say enhances the experience.

To the outsider of this community, these actions appear abusive and hurtful to the masochist.  However, many masochists have said that the abusive nature of the sex acts they engage in are what they want to happen.  It should also be noted that the people who engage in these acts often have fail-safes in place to end the encounter should either participant have reservations about what is happening.  These include “safe words,” which when uttered, will signal the sadist to stop whatever they were doing and tend to the health and safety of the other person(s).

This particular fetish is one of the most common.  This can be seen in the pop-culture acceptance of S&M themed media.  The novel 50 Shades of Grey, the first of a trilogy of S&M themed romance novels, has had over 40 million copies sold.  Also, the hit single, S&M, by Rihanna has sold roughly 15,000 copies.  This would indicate that a large portion of the public is at least curious about the S&M fetish.

Don’t be nervous about bringing this to the counter. The clerk has probably sold a few hundred copies before you even walked in the door.

But what about you?  How do you feel about this fetish?  Do you enjoy these activities or not?  Let me know by leaving a comment.

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